CAN WE LIVE WITHOUT OTHER PEOPLE?

CAN WE LIVE WITHOUT OTHER PEOPLE?

     Do you want to be alone or even to live without others? I think that... you might say yes and you might say no. In our modern world other people always says that they can live without others. why? because of the new technology. They says that without the help of others they can get what they want. Other people say, that no one can live without the presence or help of other people. That they always holding the saying "No man is an island". 

Family, friends, and etc. You can't live without this people. And most of all don't forget GOD. Some people says that they are already broken or hurt by other people that's why they afraid to communicate to other people. 

    If you are experiencing loneliness you must read this!

from https://lonerwolf.com/how-to-survive-loneliness/

HOW TO SURVIVE LONELINESS

I hope these 10 recommendations will open some new doors for you:

1. LEARN TO HAVE FUN BY YOURSELF AGAIN.

This was perhaps the most important method I used to overcome my loneliness.

When we lose friends or family members, or simply drift away from everyone around us, we tend to lose all sense of fun and playfulness, preferring to wallow in our misery instead. Realize that you can have fun alone, and that you don’t need to rely on others to make you happy. The person who can enjoy life alone can never have happiness taken away from them – to truly understand this is liberating!

I started by sticking flyers about diarrhea all over the walls and mirrors of a woman’s bathroom. I never knew fecal matter could be so freeing! Start by doing something small that you enjoy. If you used to like being wacky, be wacky. If you used to like being reckless, be reckless.  Take small steps first.

Regain what you have lost, by yourself. You will be a stronger and better person that way. Why? Because you won’t rely on, or use, other people for your entertainment.

2. LEARN TO LAUGH AGAIN.

As you may know, laughing has been scientifically proven to benefit your health. But what happens when you’re lonely? Well, chances are, you don’t laugh. At all. I didn’t.

When you really think about it, it’s pitiful how much we rely on others to make us happy. That’s why learning how to laugh again, by yourself is so important. It empowers you, and once again, it allows you to not use other people for your entertainment. They’re not vending machines after all!

If you find it hard to laugh at yourself, try putting on a funny film. Not only does it take your focus away from yourself and your misery, but it reboots those endorphins in your brain again. Funny pictures can also help, like those found on this website. Thank god for LOLCats.

3. HAVE INTIMATE TIME. ALONE.

I realize how intimidating that sounds. Don’t worry, I’m not suggesting you have a downstairs rendezvous or anything (although that could help).

My definition of intimate time is spending quality time with yourself, just like with a friend, or someone you love. I did this by spending a few minutes every day looking at myself in a mirror. I understand how bizarre that sounds, but staring deeply into your eyes and smiling everyday really makes you feel happy.

One result of this strange practice of mine was increased self-acceptance. Every day we tend to look at ourselves in mirrors to pamper and preen, but only superficially. But have you ever stopped to stare at yourself – earnestly? Try it, and you may be blown away at how much self-awareness you develop.

4. BECOME YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND.

I’m sure you’ve had a best friend in the past that now, for one reason or another, has drifted away. How did they treat you? Most people would say something along the lines of “nicely”, “considerately”, or “kindly”.

Is that the way you treat yourself? If not, why? Why can’t you be your own best friend? What is it about yourself that you’re so insecure or hateful about? Don’t you deserve love and respect just like everyone else? Exactly.

But many people falsely believe that a best friend can only be someone else. This is an absurd idea, because how can you learn to love and appreciate people truly, if first you don’t love and appreciate yourself?

Treat yourself kindly. Compliment yourself. Be considerate towards yourself, and show respect. This is the foundation of self-love.

5. BECOME YOUR OWN COUNSELOR.

This is extremely important if you want to learn how to survive loneliness.

The most detestable thing in the world to me is to listen to people who moan and complain about their problems, but don’t stop to question why they’re happening, or what they can do to solve them. For gods sake, you have a brain, so use it! It’s natural for us to complain – it can be therapeutic – but constant whinging is a mental disorder that needs to be diagnosed.

Becoming your own counselor is invaluable because it allows you to explore your problems, rather than wallowing in them. Think: why are you lonely? When did it start? How are you feeling? Why are you feeling that way? What can you do to solve your loneliness? By the way, cudos for checking out this article, because in a sense, you’re being your own counselor now.

Analyzing your problems really does help put them into new perspectives. When I experienced loneliness I read self-help books, wrote in journals and mapped out my issues on pieces of paper to give them a visual perspective. The more I analyzed them and looked at them with different perspectives, the easier I found it to address my inner turmoil.

6. BE NEAR PEOPLE.

By nature, we’re social beings – it’s hardwired into us to crave the physical, emotional and psychological company of fellow human beings, hence the existence of loneliness. So go out and be near people.

If going out with your so called “friends” alienates and depresses you, like it did with me, go and sit anonymously in a public space. This way you can entertain yourself by people watching, and be in close proximity with other people. Although this doesn’t necessarily cater to your emotional and psychological needs, it’s a start, and was something I found useful in my loneliness.

7. VOLUNTEER.

Volunteer or join an interest group. Get out of your comfort zone.

There are many beautiful, kindred souls to be found in volunteering circles and interest groups. In fact, if you’re looking for a friend, this is the perfect way to meet new people. Loneliness tricks you into thinking that everyone is alike and that you won’t ever be able to find a kindred soul. Well you’re wrong. I had immense, horrifically mammoth expectations of people and managed to find someone who complemented me perfectly (Sol), after creating a meetup group of my own.

There is a kindred soul out there somewhere who understands your plights, who can echo your thoughts and who can connect with you in ways you wouldn’t think were even possible. I’m testimony to that.

8. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, PHYSICALLY.

Neglecting yourself when you feel down is tempting. Of what consequence are you when the whole world is dark, dreary and crumbling into a void of emptiness? None. But taking care of your body is the beginning of recovery. So be playful. Lighten up. Your body deserves comfort, grooming and pleasure.

Have a bubble bath. Lie on a soft pillow. Buy yourself a nice treat. Get a massage. Do your hair. Drink some tea or fine wine. The more I respected my body, the more I found respect for myself in honoring my comfort and taking care of my needs.

9. LISTEN TO CALMING MUSIC.

Don’t make the mistake of listening to depressing, dark music to match your mood. It can be extremely tempting to do this, and I gave into the temptation many times.

However, in the end, I found that listening to soul-soaring music was the healthiest, and wisest choice. Whether it be pop, classical or ambient, listening to upbeat music actually increases the endorphins (the happy chemicals) in your brain.

Personally, my favorite thing was to get up YouTube and listen to ambient music playlists. If you want some keyword suggestions for YouTube, try “ambient music”, “harp music”, “dulcimer music”, “hang drum music”, and “singing bowl music”.  All of these instruments are beautifully ethereal and will quickly take you beyond yourself.

10. LEARN TO LOVE JOY MORE THAN MISERY.

It’s quite possible that you’re in love with your misery at this very moment in time.

I know this sounds bizarre, but I thank Sol for his article which explains this in depth more, and for the development of this thought.

Unconsciously, I realized that I was accustoming myself too much to a miserable way of life. After a while, when all we know is isolation and depression, we tend to grow accustomed to this way of living. It becomes the norm. And in a sickly way, it even provides us with comfort. This means that when we try to break our “norm” of isolation and depression we become uncomfortable, suddenly thrown out of our comfort zone. This can lead to self-sabotaging behavior, and to unconscious decisions to find excuses to be comfortable in our misery again. Becoming aware of this can truly liberate you when learning how to survive loneliness.

  OTHER PEOPLE ALWAYS SAYS THAT THEY CAN LIVE WITHOUT OTHERS.

   IF YOU THINKS THAT YOU CAN LIVE WITHOUT OTHERS, YOU ARE DEFINITELY WRONG BECAUSE WITHOUT GOD, WITHOUT OTHERS YOU CANNOT BE HAPPY AND YOU CANNOT CONTENTED IN THIS WORLD.

   ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT GOD IS ALWAYS BY YOUR SIDE NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS.

WHAT IS THE IMPORTANCE OF HISTORY?

WHAT IS THE IMPORTANCE OF HISTORY?

    They say that past is past. But what if  there is no past at all? what do you think will happen to our society or to our world now? Some of people would probably say the magic word"EDI WOW". 

I would share one of the definition of  history that can help you to open your mind about the reality and the truth. This explanation is according to David Crabtree. According to him, History is very important. 

please read his explanation below! 

History is important. In centuries past this statement would have seemed self-evident. Ancient cultures devoted much time and effort to teaching their children family history. It was thought that the past helps a child understand who he is. Modern society, however, has turned its back on the past. We live in a time of rapid change, a time of progress. We prefer to define ourselves in terms of where we are going, not where we come from. Our ancestors hold no importance for us. They lived in times so different from our own that they are incapable of shedding light on our experience. Man is so much smarter now than he was even ten years ago that anything from the past is outdated and irrelevant to us. Therefore the past, even the relatively recent past, is, in the minds of most of us, enshrouded by mists and only very vaguely perceived. Our ignorance of the past is not the result of a lack of information, but of indifference. We do not believe that history matters.

But history does matter. It has been said that he who controls the past controls the future. Our view of history shapes the way we view the present, and therefore it dictates what answers we offer for existing problems. Let me offer a few examples to indicate how this might be true.

   By his explanation you would definitely say "I agree! History has a big distribution to our present and of course to the coming future". And if you are not agree let's go to another definition! 

what do you think the importance of history to our lives?

THIS IS ACCORDING TO TEAMWORK:

https://www.importantindia.com/23240/importance-of-history-in-our-life/

1. History promotes patriotism and enhances responsible citizenship. By studying history, one finds out how his/her nation emerged, the problems encountered and also the nation’s values. He /she also discovers how the country interacted with other societies. This information enables him to appreciate his nation and becomes a responsible citizen.

2. Learn important lessons: The study of history helps us understand the present and predict the future.’History repeats itself’ is a statement we hear on a regular basis. This means that some trends and patterns in our lives tend to repeat themselves. Statistics and experiences from the past can be the roadmap for national planning and sharing of resources. This is through studying the various dynamics that shaped certain phenomena. Business professionals can study past recessions in order to avoid one. Even at a person level, people can avoid unnecessary pain and suffering just by learning from history.

3. History helps us understand what informed the actions of those before us. Sometimes we try to understand why certain things happened in the past, or why particular individuals who greatly affected the course of history acted in the manner that they did. Studying history will help as understand the reasoning that informed such actions. In the same breath, we can try to use the lessons learnt to do better.

4. History equips us with vital skills: Skills that can be acquired from the study of history include data analysis, research expertise and evaluation skills. These skills can be applied in other fields other than history itself.

5. History is fun: Many people like exploring and discovering new things. Studying history gives you an opportunity to explore activities that occurred in the past. And by exploring, you find out what used to happen yet still not known to other people. People have different opinions about facts. Find your opinion.

6. History is a good subject for career and professional development. The study of history helps create good political leaders, professionals (teachers, lawyers) and business people. One can study history in order to teach at any stage of school. The best lawyers base their legal arguments on past cases. Journalists study history in order to report news in a more informed way.

7. It creates a sense of moral understanding: When you read the stories of past individuals and situations, you put yourself in a position to question your own moral sense, improve it so that it can face the real world around you.

8. To find inspiration: There are people who overcame adversity and surmounted several obstacles in the past with very minimum resources. We can draw inspiration from such people and imitate their strength in solving the challenges that face us today. It’s always nice to know that the problems that we face are not unique, or that some people faced even greater problems but still managed to succeed.

ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT HISTORY IS VERY IMPORTANT. WITHOUT HISTORY, WE HAVE NO PRESENT AND ALSO WE HAVE NO FUTURE!  

HOW TO CREATE A SIMPLE BUT ADDICTING STORY?

HOW TO CREATE A SIMPLE BUT ADDICTING STORY?

Nowadays, we are definitely has different perspective in reading a story. Like we most look to the cover and say that "That story has probably beautiful to read, or we say that "I will choose that story because of its casts". But the big question is how can we give our readers a simple but addicting story?

These are the steps that will help you to write not just good but better story.
According to Joe Bunting https://thewritepractice.com/write-story/

1. WRITE IN ONE SITTING

Write the first draft of your story in as short a time as  possible. If you're writing a short story, try write it in one sitting. If  you're writing a novel, try to write it in one season(three months).Don't worry too much about plotting or outlining beforehand. You can do that once you know you have a story to tell in the first place. Your draft is a discovery process. You are like an archeologist digging an ancient city out of the clay. You might have a few clues about where your city is buried beforehand, but you don't know what it will look like until it's unearthed. All that's to say, get digging!

2. DEVELOP YOUR PROTAGONIST

Stories is about protagonist, if you don't have a good protagonist, you won't have a good story. The essential ingredients for protagonist is that they must make decisions. Victor frankl said, " A Human is a deciding being". Your protagonist must make a decision to get herself into what ever mess she gets into in your story, and likewise, she must come to a crisis point and decide to get herself out of the mess. To further develop your protagonist, use other character archetypes like the villain, the protagonist opposite, or the fool, a sidekick character that reveals the protagonist's softer side.

3. CREATE SUSPENSE AND DRAMA

To create suspense, set up a dramatic question is something like, "Is he going to make it?" or, "Is she going to get the man of her dreams", by putting your protagonist's fate in doubt, you make the reader ask, What happens next? NOTE: To do this well, you need to carefully restrict the flow of information to the reader nothings destroys drama like over-sharing.

4. SHOW, DON'T TELL

Honestly, the saying “show, don’t tell” is overused. However, when placed next to the step above, it becomes very effective.

When something interesting happens in your story that changes the fate of your character, don’t tell us about it. Show the scene! Your readers have a right to see the best parts of the story play out in front of them. Show the interesting parts of your story, and tell the rest.

5. Write Good Dialogue

Good dialogue comes from two things: intimate knowledge of your characters and lots of rewriting.
Each character must have a unique voice, and to make sure your characters all sound different, read each character’s dialogue and ask yourself, “Does this sound like my character?” If your answer is no, then you have some rewriting to do.

Also, with your speaker tags, try not to use anything but “he said” and “she said.” Speaker tags like “he exclaimed,” “she announced,” and “he spoke vehemently” are distracting and unnecessary. The occasional “he asked” is fine, though

6. WRITE ABOUT DEATH

Think about the last five novels you read. In how many of them did a character die? Good stories often involve death. Harry Potter, The Hunger Games, Charlotte’s Web, The Lord of the Rings, and more all had main characters who died. Death is the universal theme because every person who lives will one day die. Tap the power of death in your storytelling.

7. EDIT LIKE A PRO

Your second draft isn’t for polishing, although many new writers will try to polish as soon as they can to clean up their embarrassing first draft. Instead, the second draft is meant for major structural changes and for clarifying the plot and characters of your novel or the key ideas of your non-fiction book.The third draft is for deep polishing. Now is when everything starts to gel. This is the fun part! But until you write the first two drafts, polishing is probably a waste of your time.

8. KNOW RULES, THEN BREAK THEM

Good writers know all the rules and follow them. Great writers know all the rules and break them. However, the best writers don’t break the rules arbitrarily. They break them because their stories require a whole new set of rules. Respect the rules, but remember that you don’t serve the rules. You serve your stories.

9. DEFEAT WRITER'S BLOCK

The best way to defeat writers block is to write. If you’re stuck, don’t try to write well. Don’t try to be perfect. Just write.Sometimes, to write better stories, you have to start by taking the pressure off and just writing.

10. SHARE YOUR WORK

You write better when you know someone will soon be reading what you’ve written. If you write in the dark, no one will know if you aren’t giving your writing everything you have. But when you share your writing, you face the possibility of failure. This will force you to write the best story you possibly can.

One of the best ways to write a story and share your writing is to enter a writing contest. The theme will inspire a new creation, the deadlines will keep you accountable, and the prizes will encourage you to submit—and maybe win! We love writing contests here at The Write Practice. Why not enter our next one?

Now , if you are beginner in writing a story these will probably can help you a lot. And we hope that we can  read one of your works!